tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7303925309737004891.post2498211114711076900..comments2023-05-04T10:43:20.753+01:00Comments on Angel Jane's World... : My Father...AngelJanehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16222654307844999208noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7303925309737004891.post-88765392223257314042013-04-22T18:11:20.956+01:002013-04-22T18:11:20.956+01:00I always tell you lovely lady how wonderful it is ...I always tell you lovely lady how wonderful it is to hear from you... you are so very special to me and I super appreciate your friendship and support. <br /><br />Hearing your story saturates me with such honour. I love that you came, spent time and shared such a beautiful deep part of yourself because I know what it takes to keep opening wounds, and being a guardian, a fixer, a messenger, and all this is done unconditionally. Like you I want nothing in return... some people find that hard to believe but it’s the truth. <br /><br />I also believe darker parts of our lives are necessary, because without the dark we would not recognise the light... The only thing I’d really like is for others to get comfort, peace and sometimes I wistfully hope they smile at my words, my stories, my life because I give it with love and again like you, I want absolutely nothing in return... You spend as long as you want in my world Dawn, and write as little or as much as you wish because I love you’re writing, I like and connect with your style. <br /><br />I love that you choose to spend time here. I am honoured we are friends. <br /><br />Nothing but good wishes for you my friend <3 <br /> AngelJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16222654307844999208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7303925309737004891.post-9187991432297603762013-04-21T03:14:28.970+01:002013-04-21T03:14:28.970+01:00Darling Jane, thank you for sharing your thoughts ...Darling Jane, thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic. I didn't have an ideal childhood, either, and my father wasn't physically present the majority of each year. When he did come home on vacation (he lived out of the country for work), he made our lives purely miserable because of philandering ways and alcoholism which encouraged physical, emotional and verbal abuse. There was no emotional bond, no connection with him from us, nor from him TO us. What did exist was a selfish, shallow person who had no patience for small children. Being the youngest of 3, I didn't imprint on him the way my brother & sister did - they spent more time around him before he was transferred down range for work, and my Mom brought us back to the U.S. from where they had been stationed in the Bahamas. I can remember listening to them and my Mom cry at night for weeks after he would go back to work, and from that early age, I became an Fixer.<br /><br />Looking back, I find it fascinating, and very sad, how a wee child of 3 year's age can make a conscious choice to become a caretaker and a fixer. To my wonderful Mom's credit, we were surrounded with absolute love, and through her family of 8 siblings, we had stability to a wonderful degree and father figures in the guise of her 5 brothers. <br /><br />I know that I carry scars and wounds, but like you, I chose to be consciously aware and accountable for myself. I refused to repeat the cycles of abuse that my alcoholic father displayed. I chose a different path and somehow managed to turn into a healer and a writer who, like you, offers solace, support and peace to others who walk a confusing world.<br /><br />See? Once again, you and I are very similar. That resonance of souls thing always chimes brightly for me when I visit you. Forgive me for this very lengthy response (perhaps it would've been better to email it to you).<br /><br />You make a beautiful difference in the world, my friend. Keep sharing your experiences and thoughts - they matter. <3<br /><br />Much love,<br /><br />DawnHealing Morninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03236609802381940498noreply@blogger.com